HOW TO HARNESS YOU

Being on the search to discover "you" is utterly strange because we are already defined by what other people think of us and what we believe about ourselves. It can be challenging to truly confess to ourselves that our current description of who we are is incomplete or could be better. We start to question whether the present version of ourselves will approve of who we are attempting to become, whether the people in your life will still accept this new version of you or be able to grasp the better and growing you. Each season of our lives is peeled off as we learn more about ourselves over time and a new one appears. The majority of our lives are spent on a journey to find our authentic selves.

It's an endless cycle of change, experiences, various circumstances, and people that will mold us into the person we are ultimately called and destined to be. Questions such as, "Do we like what we used to like?" or "Do we despise what we liked?" become frequent thoughts.

It takes time to reach the version of yourself that you prefer or haven't yet met, and even then, I think we still have a lot to learn because we are always evolving.

To help you get started on harnessing "you," I've come up with five steps.

STEP 1

Find your dislikes and likes

As time passes, I urge you to discover what truly interests you and what doesn't. People often want to hold on to old interests out of a fear of letting them go and discovering new ones. If we dig deeper, it's possible that the things we used to like or dislike were related to a friend or an acquaintance, which makes it difficult to let go because we don't know what to expect if we aren't defined by our old traits.

STEP 2

Get comfortable with change

There are some positive aspects to change. One of the most profound and unpleasant experiences somebody can have is to truly know themselves.

Being able to choose to seek better for yourself and to dare to see your actual and honest self makes it one of the best experiences. It's completely worth it if becoming your best version requires changing some of your habits or features.

This path will cause you to lose friends and, quite frankly, yourself, which makes it an uncomfortable experience. You start to unlearn all of your old habits and adopt new ones while also having fresh experiences. As you change, some individuals in your life could still have a preconceived notion of who you are and make an effort to revert you to your previous habits and characteristics. That shouldn't frighten you since being your true authentic self is worth a little discomfort.

STEP 3

Patience

As I already said, this is a process, so please take your time. You will profit much from it. On days when you will revert to your normal settings, be kind to yourself and give yourself some leeway. Allow yourself to believe that your efforts to better yourself are not in vain, and take each day as it comes.

STEP 4

Help is not bad!

You must be sincere enough to speak with someone who can assist you while you are trying to figure yourself out. Finding yourself is equally as crucial to your life as any significant event because, in order to achieve any significant event, you must first discover your actual self. Once you do, everything else will fall into place.

A little assistance is not that bad while trying to discover your amazing, self-assured, and strong self.

Help can be obtained in a variety of ways, including speaking with family members, a therapist, mentors, or close friends.

But ultimately, you should never feel pressured to seek assistance. That should occur naturally!

STEP 5

Embrace everything

The final but not the least step of the process is taking it all in. Be open to anything that impacts you or, more precisely, improves you. Feel every emotion—pain and joy—because when you choose only a portion of an experience to focus on, you won’t get to experience it in its entirety. Keep in mind that in order to achieve all of this, you must accept all that you face along this beautiful, never-ending journey.

Harnessing you is a cycle, and to be deemed a cycle, it must be completed and repeated. You cannot stop at the final step and declare that you are done. You should be aware that this process can be repeated whenever you like, ideally more than once. In the end, it will help you in a lot of ways.

All these steps help you get closer to harnessing you and I believe the world is waiting for your true and authentic self. All you have to do is make it happen!